Saying "Goodbye": When Angels become Angels

Throw a rock, and you will no doubt find endless resources regarding the death of our pet and grieving, and naturally guides and suggestions on how and when to face one of the hardest decisions in your life.  My work environment is such that I am around death, or the possibility of death, every single day and I witness many grieving, confused, and tormented pet families.

I've had the pleasure of working with many amazing veterinarians, all of which offer very different guidelines, perspectives, and experiences to the owners who seek their guidance regarding making the decision to euthanize their dog or cat.  On the whole, I have never truly disagreed with any perspective or advice I've overheard, but naturally the bedside manner and approach can leave me with things to be desired (but even that is the exception, not the rule). 

My largest observation is that the doctor tends to, whether realizing it or not, balance the emotion and approach in the room.  If the owner is being purely subjective and emotional, they will offer balance and objectivism.  They will focus on the "facts", whether it be the morbidity of the pet, the owners finances, or a combination.  Contrarily, when owners are cold (and that can sometimes mask how "in pain" they truly are) focusing only on finances, I see doctors bring more emotion to the table.  They don't want owners to make decisions purely based on financial constraints, and I see them appeal to the love the owners have for their dog or cat to make their decision; so they can "live" with their choice better and feel settled about it.

My own observations tend to cause me to feel that 1 in 3 owners wait too long, 1 in 3 euthanize too soon, and 1 in 3 do it when the time is right.  This observation, however, I reserve exclusively for dog owners.  With cats, I feel like everything changes, so for the purposes of this blog and site, I am going to focus on dogs.

The "too soon" is usually glaringly obvious to any of the medical staff observing, diagnosing, and treating your animal.  If you are actually worried it's "too soon", you are probably wrong.  The fear of this drives many owners into the "waited too long" category, so you really need to understand what not giving your pet a chance really means. 

Are they young, and can it be cured, fixed, or reasonably medicated?  I must stick to the description "young", here.  When I think of young, I do not think of young in terms of their breed's life expectancy... are they "young" for them?  I personally stress to owners that while your breed's life average may be 10, it's an average.  This means that some will live to be 8, and maybe some even 15.  It's wrong to condemn your dog based on a number that has little relevance to your relationship, observations, and overall health status of your dog.  Surely if we applied this approach to human medicine, we'd never come to terms that people die at 50, while some can live to 100.  Every animal is unique.  It is not wrong to take their expectancy into consideration, but don't let it be the only thing you consider.

Again, people who euthanize too soon may unfortunately have to take financial constraints into a much more weighty consideration than others, and we cannot condemn them for that.  Does it suck when people have diamond rings and euthanize over money?  Yes, but often it's the teary-eyed mother of 3 driving the used car and struggling to make ends meet.  It just doesn't *feel* that way sometimes, because those other types of people stick in your memory so much firmer.  When you think of it, we compromise our own health in our human lives for financial constraints, and I don't think it's always unique that some have to do the same for their pets.  It's key to ask and do your research however, because there are a lot of charities who help financially support the medical needs for owners without resources.

Cured, fixed, or reasonably medicated:  a dog with diabetes can be reasonably managed.  A hypothyroid dog, a dog with allergies, a broken leg;  there are so many diseases that can be reasonably managed with a little money, time, and medicine, leaving the dog with a great quality of life.  Too soon, you ask... yes, people have euthanized over the slightest medical concern..  and sadder than it being financial are those who feel they just "don't have the time" to help manage a condition.  Let's not think about those people too much.

The owners who wait for too late are often hit like a ton of bricks, because their emotional journey has made it such that they have lost their ability to "see" their dog through unbiased eyes.  I feel they live in a fair amount of denial, whether they are treating and medicating or just avoiding the vet's office because they don't want to know the truth.  By the time they arrive to euthanize, it's usually at the behest of a friend or family member who nearly forces their hand.  "Mom, you really need to let him go now".  They arrive on gurneys, unable to lift their heads, and perhaps haven't eaten in days and days.  To the defense of these individuals, they likely have been seeing "good days and bad days" with their dog.  While the idea of euthanizing has been looming for weeks, one day he seems more bright, more alert, and they convince themselves perhaps he is going to get better.  All the same, a tail wag is all it takes for an owner to put it off another day.  

For those in this difficult position, remember that our dogs are not objective, and lack the complete ability to be so.  Never mistake a tail wag for a desire to persist:  they live and breath and desire nothing other than pleasing you, seeing you, and making you call them by their sweet nick names.  If that desire is still present, it doesn't mean they aren't ready to go.  If that desire is totally vacant, you probably definitely have waited too long.  Perhaps that last tail wag can reassure you they still recognize you, and recognize that you haven't left them alone for their last, final journey.

I've heard many doctors give people the suggestion that they should really bare in mind the things that make their dog "them" and happy.  When that list of items diminishes to only a couple or none, then the time may be right.  For example, five things he loves: 1. walks in the park, 2. his treat routine, 3. chasing the squirrels, 4. snuggling on my lap watching TV, 5. doing tricks.  The theory is that if most of these things can no longer make him happy, perhaps his quality of life is such that the timing is right.  I like this idea, but I don't know if I could follow it.  The reason being is that I feel this list changes through life stages.  What made me happy at 20 certainly won't make me happy at 80.  Sure, maybe he cannot physically enjoy many of the outdoors and play activities he once did, so?  He's 100 years old in dog years, and systemically healthy for his age.  He's arthritic and his pain and discomfort can be reasonably managed to a degree, and maybe snuggling and watching TV with you is enough for him.

All things boil down to one important question:  "Is he suffering, and how can I ease his suffering?"  We can all struggle as we age: things hurt, joints are achy, but it doesn't mean we suffer.  An achy dog is suffering because if he was properly medicated, he would be reduced to struggling a little every day, but his suffering would taper.  An anorexic animal is suffering, but they can be potentially reduced to a a struggle if we can stimulate their appetite and try to manage underlying diseases.  The suffering begins when we either don't try to help them, or our help isn't working anymore.  How can I ease his suffering?  When medical treatments no longer work, then we must turn to letting them go.

We are all familiar with the suggestion "You will know when it's time".  I meet this expression with guarded agreement.  I think people on the whole are largely indecisive and unsure of themselves, and this has to play into the flaw in this phrase to some degree.  I think some owners are objective and healthy enough to really look into their dogs eyes and communicate with them, and they walk away feeling very confident they fulfilled their dogs wishes.  The rest, however, walk that line of "I think maybe", and they look to others to assure them it's time.  I think a healthy plan for people who know they are the later personality type need to orchestrate a proper objective support system of friends and/or family during this process.  "Dad, I'm going to rely on you to really tell me when I need to stop trying".  Find someone you trust, or even 3 people to preside over your intensely emotional state.

When it comes to end of life decisions, I cannot stress enough how important I feel it is to have found a veterinarian you truly, truly love and trust.  Someone who has known you and your dog for years, and someone whose advice you won't question after the fact.  Avoid getting lazy with your vet visits, settling for a less-than-ideal bedside manner because it doesn't matter to you, so long as he gets his vaccines.  I've seen people panic to find someone they like better at the last minute, because now is when it really matters, because their friend is sick, and they are not finding the kind of comfort and guidance they feel good about.  Unfortunately, some disasters happen where your pet must see ER and a vet you've never met before.  My only advice in that scenario is to really vocalize to that doctor what your needs are.  Tell them how you need to be communicated with, and how you need your pet to be handled.  It's your pet, your money, and your horrible moment.  It's very, very difficult to be a veterinarian, especially in emergencies and crisis, and they only want to do their job to the best of their ability, serving the best interests of the dog.  And remember, they are advocates for the pet first and foremost, not for you.  Doctors so rarely cannot come up with a treatment plan, so when they tell you it's time to let go, let go.

The one thing I hear often, that I am in complete agreement with, is that it's better to let go when it feels like "too soon" versus "too late".  This is a far cry from those who euthanize quickly at the slightest announcement of disease, rather I mean those of us who's mortgage our homes to save our pet, but we know they are terminal, critical, or chronic and it's only going to keep getting worse.  If it were you, what would you want?  As humans, we tend to cling very tightly to our own personal sense of dignity, having very clear lines in the sand of how we "wouldn't want to live".  Draw this line for your dog as well.

My hope for anyone who has faced this tough day, or will face it eventually, is to give themselves the courtesy of avoiding things like "I know he's just a dog, but.."  It's hard enough, and so many owners feel compelled to explain why they are in so much pain and why the decision is difficult.  Remember that your audience (doctors, techs) so love animals that they choose to spend their lives fixing them.  They are objective in your presence for your benefit, but given their own dog would likely be a frothy, wet mess just like you. 

There is nothing more pure, rewarding, and beyond define than the love and the relationship we have with our dogs.  They are like magical, mythical beings in that they can love so truly and without restraint, all while truly knowing the "real" you in so many ways and judging you only on how you treat and love them, purely and truly.  They never leave us, never lie to us, and never knowingly hurt us.  Their ability is such that even the most hateful, cynical, or jaded person can love and be loved by a dog.  Even the most independent or reclusive of types can find comfort and companionship by them.  As a society we have accepted they are family, and we have accepted that those who would consider them otherwise or use them for selfish or evil intention are the worst kind of humans.  We know that people who do not like dogs cannot be trusted, and we know that people who dogs don't trust are questionable.   It is no wonder saying goodbye to them, when it's entirely in our control many of the times, is the worst day in our lives.  

You may never feel good about your decision, but find a way to make peace with it.  Ask yourself: did you love him, and treat him with love every day? Did you always make decisions for him based on what you truly believed was best for him?  If the answer is yes, then cherish your memories, frame your pictures, and speak about them often in loving memory.

A Loss Poem: "Love and Beauty Envy the Dog"

I thought I knew what the sun felt like, on my face,

When I was cold, deep inside.

I pretended to understand how filling the ocean was, when breathing

It in deep, and feeling it’s breeze.

That moment when a certain heartbreak is resolved, and you find

Yourself content, again, for the first time in a long time;

Walking barefoot in the damp grass, in a place far from anywhere

That caused me sadness or grief;

I thought I knew the depth of my heart, my soul-

It’s potential for love; to understand that

Deep pang it gives me when it reminds me that love is real;

I thought I knew it all, I thought-

Then I found you, my dog, my sweet forever love-

And when I look into your eyes, I realize

That the moon has nothing on you-  the sun, the sea-

Anything this world can offer, any other love

I would have thought was deep and true enough.

They have nothing on you, my love-

When I look into your eyes,

There is nothing greater, warmer, stronger-  nothing I would

Give my everything to keep and to have, and nothing that

Will strike me harder when it goes. 

I will be with you when you stumble upon the very sands

Not fitting enough to carry you-

When your stomach aches or your mind suffers-

Others will revere you simply, yet the skies will understand

And be intimidated when you stare upon them

And will reflect your soul when you pause and go-

You always knew best; what mattered most-

My hero, my soul, my light-

I live to one day be the person you saw in me,

Though I do not think that is possible;

You saw in me your sun, your moon, and your ocean-

And how ironic I find that, when they bend and bow to the

Nature of your beauty;

Yet, you did-  and I will never, never leave you

And I will never let you go.

I will never forget you, and I will never feel that pounding

In my chest towards anything else in this world-

Just you.  You, forever.

I think my heart a million parts,

And you will take nearly all when you leave-

But they are yours to have, to keep, to hold

When you go to that place where you’ll never grow old.

- Shannon Murphy

Breeders Versus Rescues: Why all the controversy?

Often times, people who really have an affinity for a specific breed consider finding a breeder for a new puppy.  In rescue circles, they are met with harshness and negative judgment over their choice to not get a new dog from a shelter or a rescue.  The debate is an intense one, and I can see both sides.

The plight of the person going to a breeder, is that they are seeking a dog "true to the breed".  They want to avoid any breed influences which may alter what they know and understand about the dog they are looking for.  This level of breed consideration is to be commended, as understanding your breed before you look for a new pet is key.  In addition, there are many breeds that are uncommon.  A person has a right to seek what they desire, and someone adopting from a breeder shouldn't bear the brunt of every irresponsible dog owner who has surrendered a dog to a shelter.  We must ask dog owners to be responsible, adopt wisely, and keep their dog forever.  Their "duty" is to the dog they select, and not to fix the world of unwanted dogs.

Conversely, it seems that many who go to breeders are looking for a "look" and general characteristics, but are tolerant of deviations.  The question becomes, why buy a Boxer when you can go to Boxer rescue?  They are very common dogs, and there are many in rescue.  We are not in fear that without breeders this breed will go extinct, for surely breeding our dogs is an important aspect to ensuring our amazing breeds continue to exist.  In addition, there are dogs in rescue who originally came from breeders (and likely not because of any fault of the breeder, short of poorly selecting the adoptive family.  But people can really surprise you, even after a ton of vetting).  If you shop your local shelters and rescues, you stand a good chance of finding your purebred dog.

I've been seeing a ton of people lately breeding the designer dog mutts.  I guess this is the only thing I don't really understand.  Why do you need a breeder if your dog is a mutt?  "Well, I want the best of both worlds".  Okay, but you can still find that easily in rescue, you just need to look and invest some patience and time.  "This dog is a shepherd, Rottweiler mix".  Okay, good.  Do your research on both.

Frankly, the frustration from rescue regarding people who purchase from breeders is that most people aren't looking for a "breed".  They are looking for a "great dog who is good with kids and other dogs".  If your requirement so simple, why not adopt?  Especially when adopting a 1 year old dog gives you a far better idea of what you can expect.  We can love our breeds, but each dog is unique and meeting them past puppyhood offers us such valuable insight into how they are naturally, personally, going to be unique.

With regards to the Great Pyrenees breed, I find myself shocked when people look for us for recommendations on breeders.  I must give people an ounce of forgiveness, because they have not seen the amount of Pyrenees that are in rescues and shelters right now.  I will have this breed my entire life, and I cannot foresee ever needing to contact a breeder so they can make more puppies the world doesn't need.  I respect the show ring and the need to continue the "true breed", but outside of those who want to show, I just don't get it with Pyrs.  I can also easily assume that those looking for livestock guardians really need to find a Pyrenees who is from a great stock of guardians.  Your livestock is too valuable to trust it to a 2 year old Great Pyrenees from a shelter with no livestock history. 

Great Pyrenees available in shelters and in rescue tend to be "true", and when I see Pyrenees mixes, the Pyr part has always seemed to be far less Pyr than is obvious.  When I still worked in rescue, we came across a lot of dogs who didn't do so great as livestock guardians.  Perhaps they let their farmer down, and didn't guard their sheep as they should have.  We saw a ton of Pyrs born on farms to unspayed bitches, who when they reached just about 6 months old the farm/family surrendered them.  "Why are there so many Great Pyrenees in rescue?" people would always ask.  Well, I'd tell them, we found that a lot of farm Pyrs aren't altered, as the thought tends to be spaying or neutering may hamper their ability to be true to their guardian jobs.  This may be true, I have no experience with them as livestock guardians in that setting.  Not altering your pets, naturally, leads to a lot of unwanted dogs.

The person looking to adopt must understand why they are met with such disdain from the rescue community.  Those in rescue see dogs day in and day out who are amazing, great dogs.  These dogs are sent to die, while people buy designer puppies and say they are "just looking for a great dog".  As humans, we cannot deny that so much of our motivation is superficial.  If it weren't so many breeds today would be far more functional and far less fluff.  To add, over-breeding of certain types of dogs seems to often reflect a trendy influence, ie. a movie that came out showcasing the protagonist to be a certain kind of dog, resulting in children across the nation screaming that their parents get this cutely-depicted creature.  The motivation is unforgivable, but regardless, you *certainly* will find that dog in rescue anyway, due to the trend.

I love my Great Pyrenees breed.  I do not want breeders to stop altogether.  If there weren't vanguards for the breed out there, eventually a breed may be subject to extinction.  Dawn, who was no fan of breeders, often said wonderful things about "whoever is breeding Bernese Mountain Dogs" in Colorado.  She said while she saw many of them in loving homes, she never saw them in rescue.  This meant that the breeders were choosing their adoptive families closely and carefully, and breeding only to that well examined demand.  This is how it should be.

The world of dogs needs a few things.  First, we need responsible breeders who breed to a well-vetted, specific demand.  Owners who *know* the breed and aren't looking for the breed for trendy or otherwise ill-advised motives.  Secondly, we need people to be responsible and smart when they look for a new dog.  If you are purely looking for a gentle temperament and a playful friend, please visit a shelter or rescue.  Does it *have to* be a standard Poodle?  Does it *have to* be a Goldendoodle?  If so, why?  Ask yourself.  If you, like me, found your breed soul mate, be sure you have shopped your rescues first.  You may be surprised at what you find.  Great, true, dogs of your breed selection that are young and impressionable.  Lastly, keep your dogs.  Spay & neuter your dogs unless you are using them for responsible breeding. (I personally believe all female non-show/breeding dogs should be spayed, as there are real health risks such as greatly increased risk of mammary cancer and pyometra in unspayed girls, regardless of if you truly *know* she will never escape and breed.  I think a well-tempered male dog can be left in tact if the owner is 100% sure he cannot escape to the lure of the gal in the area,  however I think it's illegal in most counties to not alter your dog regardless.)

Never make the naive assumption that if you surrender they will find a "better home".  They stand a real risk of finding themselves euthanized.

Dispelling the Myths of Fostering Dogs

I am not an active dog foster, so perhaps it is hypocritical for me to speak to fostering, and to encourage many to address the myths and learn how powerful you can be in the world of saving dogs' lives.  In fact, I know how and why I failed as a foster, and I hope to return to fostering in the future when the time is right.  I failed because I *wanted* dogs.  There was an open and available role in my permanent life to add a friend or two, and entering into fostering knowing you have a permanent void makes it hard to give a great dog to someone else.  Now with a full house, I do not have the room to care for more lives. It's never fair to pile animals on top of one another!  I also have cats..  and I have to respect their needs as far as finding places to get time away from dogs.  When some things change for me, I intend to initiate being a foster again.  My interest is in senior and special needs dogs.

When it comes to saving dogs, the thing over and over again that really makes the difference is having *somewhere to put them*.  People can give money, volunteer time at events, but it really all boils down to having a physical place.  Amazing people spend countless hours of selfless devotion to physically removing dogs from shelters and bad homes.  Not that money is in surplus, but money doesn't seem to be the reason more cannot be saved.  There is simply NOWHERE TO PUT THEM.

With Colorado being such a huge dog state, we must communicate the need for fosters everywhere possible.  I think more people are able to foster than they themselves realize.  Let's address some myths, that tend to discourage people from taking on this noble, life-saving endeavor:

1. I can't afford it.  Most rescues will help absorb the cost to foster.  Vet bills, food, you name it.  No rescue is looking for someone to lavish expensive toys and grooming on their fosters.   If you can provide love and attention and some direction if they need training, likely your rescue will take care of the rest.
2. I don't think my other pets would like it.  This rolls of the tongue very easily, yet have we really thought about it?  Some people truly have dogs that are not great with other dogs, but more often than not, most dogs would happily welcome a temporary play mate.  If you have cats, address the territory needs of your cats and you  may do just fine introducing a temporary buddy.
3. I don't have the time.  When people say this, I think it's based on an assumption that fostering will require them to work with the rescue more than they have the time to do.  Most rescues will do that leg work:  they'll post the dog's story, talk him up, and get him exposure.  Fosters aren't expected to spend every weekend at events.  And honestly, most rescues have a good application process which screens out bad owners and leaves you with "meet and greets" that are quality and don't take up all your personal time.
4. It will be too hard to let them go.  Don't be so sure.  Not that you won't love them deeply, but when you find the right match for them, letting them go will be so easy and rewarding.  You anticipate that "next" foster with such excitement.  If it feels wrong to give them up, it's likely because you don't support the family match presented.  This is a good thing.  When the match is right, you may miss them, but you know there is another life waiting around the corner.
5. I don't want to be scrutinized.  A lot of people dread that process.. home visits, reference checks.  As a private person, I can understand why this is daunting.  With nothing to hide, it can be hard to put your life on display and feel like you need to be "approved".  The good news is, is that organizations do this one time.  They don't come to your house looking for reasons to say 'no'.  They want to be sure you are not a hoarder, don't have a dangerous back yard, and want to be sure your current pets are well cared for and like your potential new foster.  Don't sweat it.
6. I can't trust a strange dog.  I get it, you don't know them.  You don't want to come home to destruction or a dog fight.  Like adopting any dog.. puppy or adult.. there are ways to ensure they acclimate to your home and your family.  You crate them while gone, and spend good quality time with them otherwise.  An unknown dog isn't like renting your room to someone who just got out of prison.  They are dogs, and they understand limits and leadership.
7. I don't want to get stuck with a dog I don't trust/like.  You won't.  Rescues aren't in the business of making bad foster matches.  If you meet a potential foster and aren't "feeling it", say no.  Tell them you would like to consider another foster instead.  The rescue isn't going to judge you for that.. they are so grateful to have you.  Don't feel like if you go down the road of fostering that you'll be obligated to foster whatever dog they 'throw at you'.  It doesn't work that way. 
8. I'll feel bad if I have to give the foster back.  Fostering is a commitment that you will provide optimal care and guidance while you have them. If it is not working, for any reason, talk to the rescue.  People want reliable fosters, but not at the expense of it not being the right fit.  If your other pets are just not loving it, or the dog is not a match for your family, the rescue shouldn't hold that against you.  Perhaps there is a better fit.  And never, ever, let one foster match that wasn't great put you off from fostering.  I fostered a dog for 3 months.  She was not a permanent match for my life due to her prey drive with my cats.  I asked Dawn to switch me out with another dog who may need me more (a sick dog, etc). 
9. Fostering should be fun.  Okay, I tricked you.. that is NOT a myth.  Some dogs will need training, encouragement, love.. no dog comes "batteries included" unless you are very lucky.  It should be fun.  You should invite a dog into your home, see them blossom, and encourage great behavior.  You help them find a forever home, and you are ready to help save the next life.

So what next?  You are interested.  You are nervous, and aren't sold on the whole fostering thing.  Give your local rescue a call.  Having a conversation with their coordinator doesn't cost anything.  It doesn't obligate you.  You can ask all your questions and get all your answers.

Never foster a dog breed you are not educated about, or you will set yourself up for failure.  A little bit of research goes a long way.  Think about something great you can do this year.  Think about how proud you will feel to make a real difference.  Again, donating money is fantastic.. but there are homes out there with room to spare.  Encourage your friends to consider this great way to save a life.

-Shannon Murphy

The Expense of Rescue

The other day, I heard someone comment on a particular dog who had just been saved by a rescue group.  The dog was in bad shape.  A heartworm survivor, he had several pulmonary and heart conditions related to the severity of the disease he had just overcome.  Emaciated, he smiled through his condition and cuddled on the lap of the rescuer.  Needless to say, the expense to save just this one dog was considerable, and those expenses are not even done accumulating.  For whoever adopts this guy, they will also have to be willing to open their purses more so than another owner, for the duration of his life.

The comment overheard was one I'd heard many times before.  Paraphrasing, it is "Why do these rescue groups save these kinds of dogs?  They could use that money to save so many more lives".

From observations, I feel like the general opinion on the matter is pretty 50/50.  I can understand this person's sentiment, but I feel like they are really missing the point.  Rescue isn't an assembly line, nor is it a "mass production line" spewing out healthy, adoptable rescue animals.  It's deep, it's real, and it's hard. The key aspect is, it's about the individual.

While I think most dog rescuers approach dogs or cats as a whole, perhaps even focusing on specific breeds, the heart of the matter is it's not paperwork.  It's not getting a "list" of dogs in need, and then cross-checking that list against expense and what donations are in the tin.  It's an intimate, one-on-one experience.  These people are the heroes:  they have enough bravery to walk into a shelter, look a dog in the eye, and decide if they are going to save it's life that day.  "It's" life..  They don't see a dollar amount, they see "Sam" or "Mya", or "Dog #223".  They see a personality, they see a precious soul.

The ironic thing about expense, is that your heart really will go out to the ones who need the most care, thusly the ones who will cost you the most to save.  "Look at all that dog has been through", and yet, there he or she is.. licking your face.  Each and every moment like that reinforces *why* someone is there;  why they are a rescuer.  Let's face it, if money was the issue, would anyone rescue..  at all?

To add, these rescued dogs with these inspiring stories of survival find homes quickly.  People resonate with their struggle, and they look up to their courage.  "Cancer survivor", "abuse survivor", "neglect survivor".  Few dogs are cheap to save.  Even the most healthy of dogs require basic exams and transport.  They require food and shelter in foster.

One could look objectively and reason, saving 1 perfectly healthy dog costs.. let's say..  $200.00.  When our sick dogs come around and cost $1000 to save, it may seem perfectly obvious that money is better spent saving 5 dogs versus 1.  It seems to make perfect sense.  The problem again, I refer you to the reality.  You are not balancing a check book, and you sure as heck aren't going to profit.  For the person who adopts that $1000 dog, and grows to love him.. ask them in a year how much they'd spend to have saved that dog's life.  Perhaps if they feel they would have easily spent that grand themselves, they can become inspired to donate some money back in.

I think people underestimate the amount of love a rescuer can feel for a dog they just met five minutes ago.  Hair matted, bones sticking out, tumors.. as he licks your face.. "Well, no.  We can't take that one.  He will just cost too much".  Sounds wrong, doesn't it?  That's because it really probably rarely happens that way.  The difference between true dog lovers and those who'd abandon a dog at rising food costs is clear.  The love and passion it takes to keep a dog forever, and especially to rescue dogs, is a love so great that it cannot be articulated with any words of mine.  I think that person who says "Why do rescuers save these expensive dogs?" is asked by someone who would consider surrendering a dog who got a disease that is curable with a grand out of pocket.

I don't think it's fair to expect anyone to go to the ends of the earth financially to save an animal.  I do think that my "ends of the earth" is far more extreme than some though.  I don't think you should sell your house or your kidney to save your dog, but how dare you buy a new flat screen TV the day after you surrendered your dog for financial reasons.  Shame on you, for saying you can't afford to fix something, with the same amount of money you will readily spend tomorrow on a manicure or hair cut.  Shame on you.  And shame on you for even voicing an opinion about the finances of rescue groups.

I had a conversation with a girl one time about CGPR when it was still running.  She asked me how much it cost to adopt.  $250.00, I told her, and $150.00 for special needs dogs.  "Really?" she exclaimed, "The special needs dogs should be cheaper".  I ended the conversation, versus voicing my initial response which would have been to say "They're not used cars.".  I did, however, remind her that special needs dogs cost more to save, and the cheaper adoption donation merely reflects the acknowledgment that the owner will be spending more to care for them long term.  It's not a clearance sale.

Good for you, rescuer who saved that boy the other day.  I met him, and he will be worth every penny.  Had he been seen financially as "Dog #233", then that would belie the whole entire point of saving him.  "Dog #233 costs too much, let's skip him".  He's not a number.  He is "Jack", or whatever he will be.  And the day he got saved, someone looked into his eyes and saved *him*.

-by Shannon Murphy

If you still don't get it, watch this video:

Spiro's Story

 "Junior" came into CGPR with a broken femur, as well as heart worm.  He is in a loving home now.

"Misty" came into CGPR with both ears so heavily infected that she went deaf.  She had mammary cancer so bad, that it took 2 procedures to remove all the tumors from her chest.  She is low in a loving home.

...  this is just a small, small example of 2 lives that were worth saving at any cost.

I Am A Forever Dog, Not an "Until Dog"

I am a FOREVER dog, not an "until dog."

I'm not an "until you get bored with me" dog.

I'm not an "until you find a girl[boy]friend" dog.

I'm not an "until you have a baby" dog.

I'm not an "until you have to move" dog.

I'm not an "until you have no time" dog.

I'm not an "until I get old" dog.

I'm a forever dog.

If you can't give me forever, then I'm not your dog.

It's really that simple.

Credit:  The Calgary Humane Society
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A Dog Owner's New Year's Resolutions

1. I will take you on more walks, or make our current walks longer.
2. I will dedicate more time to brushing you and giving you baths.
3. I will commit to trimming your nails more often.
4. I will be sure I am cleaning your beautiful ears weekly.
5. I will review your vet records and ensure you are up-to-date on annual bloodwork.
6. I will be sure to give you your heartworm preventative the same time, every month.
7. I will think of at least 1 new place I can take you with me to.
8. I will be sure your collar is sturdy and well-fitting, and if not I will purchase you a new one.
9. I will spend more time on your training, and focus on that "thing" that I still let you get away with.
10. I will address your weight, and ensure I am not over or under feeding you.
11. I will talk to my vet about natural supplements I can be giving you to support you as you age.
12. I will give you more fresh veggies and fruits as treats.
13. I will read up on your breed, and educate myself on any health predispositions you may face one day.
14. I will remind myself again, how this dog is mine to care for, for *forever*.
15. I will ensure I give 1 extra kiss and 1 extra hug each day.

by Shannon Murphy

Remembering Dawn

A year ago today, a beautiful life left this world, leaving many of us deeply immersed in grief and looking for answers.  There are no answers, and we know we must leave our questions behind.  

We remember Dawn today, and reflect on the huge impact she made on our world for the better while she was still with us.  With her family, she selflessly saved the lives of over 500 dogs from certain death.  As a nurse, she compassionately cared for and supported countless individuals.  As a wife, mother, and friend, she shared with us her fiercely fighting spirit full of love, integrity, commitment, and purpose.

We take this moment to thank the countless people who helped support the remaining CGPR dogs after Dawn's passing;  you know who you are!  A force of people helped move dogs into foster homes from the Pyr Farm.  Others braved their sadness to get remaining dogs to adoption events, despite the horrible nostalgia of better days when Dawn was there also.  Many opened their purses and donated to charitable causes in her name.  Emails poured in with offers of 'how to help' with the dogs.  Foster mom's took in dogs they were uncertain of, because they knew how crucial it was that we close this chapter of Great Pyrenees rescue, as we knew it, with Dawn.

Kiss your pets today for Dawn, and remind them how they have an angel watching over them from somewhere.

 Dawn & her daughter, Brianna

Dawn and rescue

"Not In Vain"

If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain:
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.

-Emily Dickinson

We love you, Dawn.

A Poem for Foster Mom's and Dad's

There I sat, alone and afraid.  

You got a call and came right to my aid.

You bundled me up with blankets and love.

And, when I needed it most, you gave me a hug.

I learned that the world was not all that scary and cold.

That sometimes there is someone to have and to hold.

You taught me what love is, you helped me to mend.

You loved me and healed me and became my first friend.

And just when I thought you'd done all you could do,

There came along not one new lesson, but two.

First you said, "Sweetheart, you're ready to go.

I've done all I can, and you've learned all I know."

Then you bundled me up with a blanket and kiss.

Along came a new family, they even have kids!

They took me to their home, forever to stay.

At first I thought you sent me away.

Then that second lesson became perfectly clear.

No matter how far, you will always be near.

And so, Foster Mom and Dad, you know I've moved on.

I have a new home, with toys and a lawn.

But I'll never forget what I learned that first day.

You never really give your fosters away.

You gave me these thoughts to remember you by.

We may never meet again, and now I know why.

You'll remember I lived with you for a time.

I may not be yours, but you'll alaways be mine.

-Author Unknown

How To Save A Life

There isn't a single person involved in dog rescue who hasn't been thanked by a stranger "for everything you do".  Dog lovers visit with adoptable dogs, give them kisses and hugs, and send them well wishes that they will soon find a forever home.  Often, they also pull some money out and donate it to help the dogs. It is also very likely that same big-hearted person has also adopted a dog from a rescue or a shelter.  If you are reading this, this is probably *you*.  Thank you.

We are afforded the great opportunity to impact our own lives, with responsible decisions that reinforce our morality about inviting dogs into our homes.  Often we wish we could do more, but the task those in rescue take on is a tremendous one, and it's not for everyone.  As anyone would suspect, it's challenging emotionally and financially, and I dare say that once you've started, you can probably never stop (once you have seen the light, you cannot pretend to only know darkness).  Daily, those people are confronted with the dichotomy of beauty versus great 'ugly':  priceless, unconditionally loving creatures against that of the human who put them into that horrible state of homelessness, usually out of their laziness.

Any person can advocate for dogs without spending a single dime, and without feeling as though they must adopt beyond their financial and emotional capacity.   As with most things within society, things occur due to the passive approval by those unwilling to vocalize their passion, faced with injustices around them.  By influencing those around us, we can save a life.

I come to this point, because when I reflect on those who surrender dogs, I reflect on the world of people around them who likely gave them apathetic approval of them adopting the dog to begin with, and then again when they surrendered them.  While other people's choices are their own to make, and mistakes the same, we would not tolerate a friend or family member if they were convicted of an unforgivable crime and sent to prison.  While I do not draw parallels between such crimes, I compare only our inability to vocalize and advocate for dogs by our refusal to accept those people who would do horrible things.

While it sounds counter intuitive to tell someone to *not* adopt a dog, sometimes you are saving a life by keeping a dog out of a home ill-equipped to manage one.  So many dogs are bred to meet the demands of trends, trends that no doubt put dogs in homes that are not worthy recipients, and whose dogs will be relinquished once the parents finally realized it would have been easier telling their kids "no" when they begged for that puppy.  Our goal must be to minimize the demand for dogs, to limit it only to serious dog owners who take the responsibility seriously.

You can save a life by being a good influence to everyone around you.  Offer advice and guidance, and tell people what they don't want to hear.  "No, (sister), you shouldn't adopt a dog right now.  You are already overwhelmed."  It's NOT always better to adopt than to choose not to.  These poor dogs end up in homes 3 times over, and no better for it.  A species who relies heavily on routine and stability, the constant life of being in rescue taxes their ability to be their true selves.

For those who neglect, surrender, ignore, or otherwise give their dogs a life that they do not deserve, talk to them.  Make them understand why their committment to their dog is larger than to that of their car and it's oil change.  There needs to be consequences for the horrible actions of others, and I feel like when it comes to animals, we're quick to 'forgive' because there is a perception dogs are property.  While they are, on the whole, our property, it is only in the sense that they are ours; not in the sense they are made of plastic and lose their value once you've driven it off the lot.

You can also help save a life by advocating against Breed Specific Legislation, which takes dogs out of good homes and sends them to die.  This is also free to do, and easy; we can write letters, send emails, and ensure the politicians we vote for support dog owner's rights.  Believe it or not, I have read BSL that included Great Pyrenees as a "restricted breed".

When searching for an apartment or house to rent, do not rent from those who do not understand dogs.  Even if you do not own a dog, show your support for dog ownership by avoiding places that put uneducated restrictions on weight and breed.  I support a private business owner running his business as he sees fit, thusly restricting or banning dogs on their premises.  To me, it's not the people who say "no dogs", it's the ones who say yes, but with the uneducated caveat that the dog must fit into their standard of acceptance, without any regard to understanding dogs at all.  We knew a couple who lived in a "dog friendly" building, who sought approval from their landlord to adopt a large breed dog (a Pyr).  The landlord said 'yes'.  He saw the dog one day, and said "Oh, no.. that's *too* big".  This was a 9 year old Great Pyrenees.  Unacceptable.

Don't throw out toys and dog food.  Often we try a new bag of food, decide we don't like, and have a fresh bag of food we have no use for.  We buy toys for our dogs they hate, and never use.  We get puppies who outgrow leashes and collars while they are still "gently used".  We get new dog bowls, and have a myriad of bowls we are no longer using.  Contact a local rescue and donate.

It costs no money to volunteer.  A lot of places don't need a long-standing commitment (though it would be nice), but volunteering your time to hold dogs and talk to owners about responsibility and breed education helps save lives.

Can you foster?  Fostering is tough, I won't lie.  Perhaps you have 2 dogs, and think to adopt a third.  Maybe you can consider fostering that "3rd dog position" in your home.  You will have the reward of that additional dog, and the unique job of ensuring he finds an appropriate, forever home.  However hard it is to let a foster go, those feelings are somewhat erased when you bring that next, new foster into your home and out of despair.

Lastly, ask for help.  A lot of loving, great dog homes feel overwhelmed at times.  They are juggling families and jobs, and often it's easy to miss the signs their dogs are not adjusting well.  Before allowing yourself to feel overwhelmed, ask for help.  Reach out not only to friends, but to breed experts.  Breed lovers don't need to know you, and they will happy to help give you advice.  Don't wait for things to have been going on for months; explore your dog's negative behavior as soon as you start to see it.

There are lots of ways to save a life.

1. Refuse to approve of the irresponsible decisions of others regarding ownership.
2. Educate others.
3. Be aware of, and vote against, Breed Specific Legislation.
4. Do not support breed discrimination from businesses.
5. Donate unwanted dog goods.
6. Volunteer.
7. Foster.
8. Ask for help.

If you can commit to just 2 things from this list, you are helping to save dogs. 

by Shannon Murphy

"The world is a dangerous place--not because of those who do evil, 

but because of those who look on and do nothing."

-Albert Einstein

A Christmas Poem: Ode to Pyr Hair

A Christmas Poem:  Ode to Pyr Hair

Sarah Stambaugh

National Capitol Great Pyrenees Club

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas,

There's magic in the air.

The house is all trimmed and ready,

With beautiful Pyrenees Hair.

We have the perfect answer

To create this festive scene.

Because living with us in our house

Is a built-in snow machine.

Who needs silver glitter

Or tinsel for the tree,

When our Pyr can provide it,

And it's all furnished free.

It's amazing what one can do

With this long and shiny hair.

It clings so nice to everything

And fits in anywhere.

And when your friends drop by to visit

And drink a cup of cheer,

There's a gift for them to take back

From your faithful, loving Pyr.

So here's to Pyrenees fur

Forever may it thrive

In your house and our house

As long as we survive. 

A Poem about Pyrs

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Peter Goertz

Found on http://www.northwestgreatpyrenees.com/poems.html

I revere the natural things

Deep green forest, high mountain springs

But it's the living things on earth I love the most

Far better than a glass of water, napkin or toast

Now God got it right when He said "Let there be dog."

Because he became man's best friend, not elk, cow or frog

And when God told Noah, "Put them all in the ark"

It was dog that got the job to keep watch and bark

Now that one special breed from the days of the Ark

Can still be seen around town, at the beach or a park

They're big and they're white and they're nobody's fool

They can melt you with their eyes, and soak your pants with their drool

They're as strong as an ox, but their demeanor is mild

They can guard a whole herd, or protect just one child

God has given them a strong character and beauty, you know

They can do dog multitask, even win a dog show

I must admit there's a trait I've never understood

If you let them off the leash they may be gone for good

They're very affectionate, yet can be quite aloof

You know them by the sound they make:  woof, woof, woof

So let's thank the French for the wine and cheese

But let's thank them most for the Great Pyrenees!

Poem: Loyalty

"Loyalty"

You can't buy loyalty, they say,
I bought it though, the other day.
You can't buy friendships, tried and true
Well just the same,I bought that too.
I made my bid and on spot
Brought love and faith and a whole job lot
Of happiness, so all in all
The purchase price was pretty small.
I bought a single trusting heart,
that gave devotion from the start.
If you think these things are
Not for sale,
Buy a brown-eyed puppy with a wagging tail.

-Author Unknown 

 

A Pet's Diary- Author Unknown

 

Excerpts from a Dog's Diary

• 8:00 am - Dog food! My favorite thing!
• 9:30 am - A car ride! My favorite thing!
• 9:40 am - A walk in the park! My favorite thing!
• 10:30 am - Got rubbed and petted! My favorite thing!
• 12:00 pm - Lunch! My favorite thing!
• 1:00 pm - Played in the yard! My favorite thing!
• 3:00 pm - Wagged my tail! My favorite thing!
• 5:00 pm - Milk bones! My favorite thing!
• 7:00 pm - Got to play ball! My favorite thing!
• 8:00 pm - Wow! Watched TV with the people! My favorite thing!
• 11:00 pm - Sleeping on the bed! My favorite thing!

Excerpts from a Cat's Diary

Day 983 of my captivity.
My captors continue to taunt me with bizarre little dangling objects.
They dine lavishly on fresh meat, while the other inmates and I are fed hash or some sort of dry nuggets. Although I make my contempt for the rations perfectly clear, I nevertheless must eat something in order to keep up my strength. The only thing that keeps me going is my dream of escape.
In an attempt to disgust them, I once again vomit on the carpet.
Today I decapitated a mouse and dropped its headless body at their feet. I had hoped this would strike fear into their hearts, since it clearly demonstrates what I am capable of. However, they merely made condescending comments about what a "good little hunter" I am. Bastards!
There was some sort of assembly of their accomplices tonight. I was placed in solitary confinement for the duration of the event. However, I could hear the noises and smell the food. I overheard that my confinement was due to the power of "allergies." I must learn what this means, and how to use it to my advantage.
Today I was almost successful in an attempt to assassinate one of my tormentors by weaving around his feet as he was walking. I must try this again tomorrow --but at the top of the stairs.
I am convinced that the other prisoners here are flunkies and snitches.
The dog receives special privileges. He is regularly released - and seems to be more than willing to return. He is obviously retarded.
The bird has got to be an informant. I observe him communicate with the guards regularly. I am certain that he reports my every move. My captors have arranged protective custody for him in an elevated cell, so he is safe. For now . . .

20 Ways To Know You Are Officially A "Dog Person"

1.       I used to wipe my face after a dog “kissed” me.  Now, I only do it when others are watching.

2.       I know dog’s mouths are disgusting, but I still welcome the kisses without reserve.

3.       When I meet other dogs and their owners, I secretly beg inside for a sign their owner will be fine if I reduce myself to a toddler’s age so I can kiss and love on their dog.

4.       I’m super excited when socially conversations turn to “Dogs” so I can share my latest anecdotes.

5.       I’m super excited when I hear someone is going to adopt a new dog, so I can share my experiences.

6.       I used to put time into wondering if people were worth knowing, and now I make less effort when I learn they ‘love dogs’.

7.       I once kept a very clean bed.  Now, I just wipe the dirt from the dogs off and relish in the fact they’ll soon jump again in the bed and spread more dirt.

8.       My car used to look immaculate.  It would stress me out when it was a mess.  Now I look at the slobber stains and am thankful my new friends keep me down to earth.

9.       I used to worry about the appearance of my clothes.  Now, I know people know “she owns dogs” and my hairy pants are excused.

10.   No matter who they are, they know I am a dog owner.  They know their health is equal  to any other family member, and I will call out of work to attend to them.

11.   When the first question people ask me when catching up is, “so how are your dogs?”

12.   When learning of someone who surrendered a dog, you determine they are no longer worth knowing.

13.   I look forward to visiting the vet, just so I can talk more about my dog than I already do.

14.   If I haven’t thrown a birthday party, I’ve considered it.

15.   I’m positive I know all my dog’s “favorite things”, even though I can’t say the same for any human I know.

16.   If my dog doesn’t like you, neither will I.

17.   I somehow know every bump and imperfection on their body, but I hardly can say the same for my own.

18.   If I am single and dating, don’t worry about what my “friends” think.  Worry about how I will interpret how you interact with my dog.

19.   If my dog didn’t seem “right” this morning, it will ruin my day and I will obsess on it until I know they are okay.

20.   If you worry, no matter how many times you tell them, that your dog doesn’t understand how much you love them and cannot live without them, then you are officially a “Dog person”.

-by Shannon Murphy